BELIEVE IN YOURSELF-YOU WILL FIND HAPPINESS.

To my god Sri Shirdi Saibaba , I have my whole faith in him.But I respect all religions and respect the religious sentiments of people.

But there is someone. God. In whichever form you worship him,he will come and stand by your side.

What I have learnt in life,a very important lesson........You are the most important person in your life.I am not saying that you have to be selfish or anything like that.But as age advances, I have come to believe more in myself than in others.In order to be happy, simply ignore people who look down upon you,hurt you in innumerable ways.If you cannot forgive them,forget them.That will give you a feeling of relief,relax you and calm you down.

Believe in yourself ,believe that you can do anything you want,influence people.I have influenced several people,both patients and relatives in my life as a doctor.And that is great thing.That is half the life saved.When a patient develops faith in you,the cure is much more easy.

I have faced much opposition in my life , dirty slandering and harassment due to jealousy..People who think themselves to be superior ,but in no way superior to you.Your jealous colleagues who harass and harm you throughout your work period. If you learn to ignore them and pray to God,believe that God is on your side always to protect you, then your troubles vanish like vapor.I have felt it.So believe in yourself.

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You are superior in your own field.And especially the young generation they have the false belief that older people are outdated and ignorant.Poor souls,they do not know the value of experience and about the hard work and efforts of a senior the life time of hard work and effort in saving several thousands of lives,in dealing with several thousands of complicated cases,in dealing with the emotions of relatives of the patient.The tension involved in treating patients, the efforts and tension involved in building bridges,erecting large multi storied buildings, the lawyers with their complicated cases,the teachers with difficult students,the parents and teachers handling special children needs... all with vast experience and dedication.

Recently my niece told me "I am creative,I excel in my field,computers,I make jewellery,I am creative.What creativity do you have ?maybe cooking.But that too you cook only bland heart and diabetic friendly dishes So???"

Poor thing,she is only 24 yrs old and does not know about the tensions,the sacrifices,the effort and devotion, the split second decisions and nerve wracking moments of a general surgeon.Surgery is the most artistic and creative act.Especially Plastic surgery.In my blog I have written about how by a very complicated surgery,I could save a patient with an infected skull.Yes niece, we surgeons have to be precise and creative in our surgery.You cannot even imagine our tension,our lack of sleep.our sacrifices.You are young.You can be excused for such ignorant and spiteful words.

Maybe there are well wishers,genuine or otherwise in your lives.Maybe there are close friends.And parental love is very genuine .But what is this I am hearing? Parents killing their own children some times. Not only in Western countries and also in India nowadays.You hear so much about parents killing their children due to poverty,due to extramarital affairs and drug and alcohol abuse.

In India a rising concern is the parental pressure children feel to perform well in school and college examinations, which can be seen as a form of emotional stress and abuse. Sexual abuse is engaging a child in any sexual activity that he/she does not understand or cannot give informed consent for or is not physically, mentally or emotionally prepared for.

But thank God these are comparatively rare incidents.But parental pressure on their off spring to perform well in schools and colleges,is a very common trait nowadays especially in India.This leads to rebellion in some children who take to drugs and alcohol .But when the offspring believes in himself and his/her parents and their desire to see the children shine in all fields,he/she will compromise and start believing in self to achieve targets set by the parents. Sometimes what the students wish to do,the parents do not encourage them.That is bad for the psychological development of the child. That too causes rebellion or a deep dislike for the parents.In these cases the parents when they get older do not receive the attention they need. There are plenty of old people in India with children settled abroad.It is only as they get old,they feel the lack of security and feel lonely.

And these incidents lead to their disrespect for elders.

In South India we say "माता, पिता, गुरु, देवम् " .Meaning the woman who gives birth to you and sacrifices so much for you is first and foremost in your life.Then comes Pita(father) who struggles for your education and keep up.Then comes Guru ,the teacher who puts you on the way to knowledge.And finally God due to whom you exist.This is quite true generally.

But this was a bit out of the way of my topic.We are talking about how to keep yourselves happy.And I just wanted to emphasize the fact that the younger generation now in general do not give the proper respect due to experienced elders.Ignore them,they are ignorant,poor things.

So if you want to be happy you have to learn to forget/ignore these ignorant beings.When you think of the spiteful remarks they pass or the spiteful things they do,do not think,ignore ,forget it if you are not capable of forgiving.
If you cannot forgive,forget or ignore these spiteful people. Then you can be happy. Attach the the utmost importance to your feelings and happiness. You will only feel tense,increase your blood pressure etc,if you have attachment to such things.Remember by forgiving or forgetting,you are benefiting yourself and not those spiteful persons.Brooding brings on unwanted tension and disease.

My brother,Haran told me this.Just like you delete unwanted contacts from your phone,delete these unwanted incidents from your memory.That is the success of happiness.Moving on with your precious life which God has given you. What you do with yourself is none of anyone's business.You have every right to be happy.

Golden words. Now even I am realising that better be alone than with unwanted company.Search for God who is inside you,do not make his abode ,which is your heart,dirty.Keep his abode clean and you will be happy.